Sorgarferlið

Stig sem Kubler-Ross skilgreindi:

• Denial (this isn't happening to me!)
• Anger (why is this happening to me?)
• Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if...)
• Depression (I don't care anymore)
• Acceptance (I'm ready for whatever comes)

 

Þau koma ekki endilega í þessari röð heldur mismunandi. Þetta er ein skilgreiningin á sorgarferlinu.

 

If you're going through hell
keep on going,
don't slow down
if you're scared, don't show it
you might get out before the devil even knows
you're there.

        --Lyrics of a country song by Rodney Atkins (1969- ) - af consolatio.com

 

The prophet - Khalil Gibran

And a woman spoke, saying, "Tell us of Pain."

And he said:

Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.

Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain.

And could you keep your heart in wonder at the daily miracles of your life, your pain would not seem less wondrous than your joy;

And you would accept the seasons of your heart, even as you have always accepted the seasons that pass over your fields.

And you would watch with serenity through the winters of your grief.

Much of your pain is self-chosen.

It is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self.

Therefore trust the physician, and drink his remedy in silence and tranquillity:

For his hand, though heavy and hard, is guided by the tender hand of the Unseen,

And the cup he brings, though it burn your lips, has been fashioned of the clay which the Potter has moistened with His own sacred tears.

 

 

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Substance over Form

I'm learning that for a variety of reasons, I've spent much of my life focusing on form rather than substance. My focus has been on having my hair done perfectly, wearing the right clothes, having my makeup applied perfectly, living in the right place, furnishing it with the right furniture, working at the right job, and having the right man. Form, rather than substance, has controlled my behavior in many areas of my life. Now, I'm finally getting to the truth. It's substance that counts.
--Anonymous

There is nothing wrong in wanting to look our best. Whether we are striving to create a self, a relationship, or a life, we need to have some solid ideas about what we want that to look like.

Form gives us a place to begin. But for many of us, form has been a substitute for substance. We may have focused on form to compensate for feeling afraid or feeling inferior. We may have focused on form because we didn't know how to focus on substance.

Form is the outline; substance is what fills it in. We fill in the outline of ourselves by being authentic; we fill in the outline of our life by showing up for life and participating to the best of our ability.

Now, in recovery, we're learning to pay attention to how things work and feel, not just to what they look like.

Today, I will focus on substance in my life. I will fill in the lines of myself with a real person - me. I will concentrate on the substance of my relationships, rather than what they look like. I will focus on the real working of my life, instead of the trappings.

- From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie.

Krísa

"In the best of times, our days are numbered anyway. So it would be a crime against nature for any generation to take the world crisis so solemnly, that it put off enjoying those things for which we were designed in the 1st place: the opportunity to do good work, to enjoy friends, to fall in love, to hit a ball, and to bounce a baby."

 Alistair Cooke

Crises refine life. In them you discover what you are.

- Allan K. Chalmers

In times of life crisis, whether wild fires or smoldering stress, the first thing I do is go back to basics... am I eating right, am I getting enough sleep, am I getting some physical and mental exercise everyday.

- Edward Albert

Vonin

Að hafa von er ekki að vona að allt verði í lagi heldur að vona að maður sjálfur verði í lagi sama hvernig hlutirnir verða.

- höf.ókunnur

sætt

Whatever you give a woman, she's going to multiply. If you give her sperm, she'll give you a baby. If you give her a house, she'll give you a home. If you give her groceries, she'll give you a meal. If you give her a smile, she'll give you her heart. She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her. So - if you give her any crap, you will receive a ton of shit.

Gospel

maður heyrir sorglega hluti þessa dagana

 

More Than I Can Bear

I've gone through the fire
And I've been through the flood
I've been broken into pieces
Seen lightnin' flashin' from above
But through it all I remember
That He loves me
And He cares
And He'll never put more on me
Than I can bear

I said
Never put more on me
No no
Never put more on me
Unh unh
Never put more on me
Never
His word said He won't
I believe it
I recieve it
I claim it
It's mine
No he'll never
Put more on me
Than I can bear
Can bear 

 

FOR EVERY MOUNTAIN ( BROOKLYN TABERNACLE CHOIR)

I've got so much to thank God for
So many wonderful blessings
and so many open doors
A brand new mercy
along with each new day
That's why I praise You
and for this I give You praise

For waking me up this morning
That's why I praise You
For starting me on my way
That's why I praise You
For letting me see the sunshine
that's why I praise You
of a brand new day
A brand new mercy
along with each new day
That's why I praise You and for this
I give You praise

You're Jehovah Jhireh
That's why I praise You
You've been my Provider
That's why I praise You
You see so many times You´ve met my needs
So many times You rescued me
That's why I praise You
I want to thank You for the blessing
You give to me each day
That's why I praise You
For this I give You praise

For every mountain You brought me over
For every trial you've seen me through
For every blessing
Hallelujah, for this I give You praise

gildin

Make money your god and it will plague you like the devil. - Henry Fielding (1707 - 1754)

Do not be fooled into believing that because a man is rich he is necessarily smart. There is ample proof to the contrary. - Julius Rosenwald (1862 - 1932)

Lack of money is no obstacle. Lack of an idea is an obstacle. - Ken Hakuta

If you want to feel rich, just count the things you have that money can't buy - Proverb

Money often costs too much. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Money will buy you a fine dog, but only love can make it wag its tail. - Richard Friedman

 

  af cuteoverload.com

ríkisútvarpið-sjónvarp

vefur ruv liggur niðri, á ögurstundu er ekki hægt að fylgjast með atburðum á Íslandi ef fólk er erlendis. Sama gerðist með skjálftann sem var í sumar...

að líta á björtu hliðarnar

það er a.m.k. ekki stríð né farsótt...

Þorvaldur Gylfason

Grein hans Frjálst fall: hvað er að gerast? frá 2007.

Antisocial personality disorder

Diagnostic criteria

Three or more of the following are required:

1. Failure to conform to social norms with respect to lawful behaviors as indicated by repeatedly performing acts that are grounds for arrest;
2. Deceitfulness, as indicated by repeatedly lying, use of aliases, or conning others for personal profit or pleasure;
3. Impulsivity or failure to plan ahead;
4. Irritability and aggressiveness, as indicated by repeated physical fights or assaults;
5. Reckless disregard for safety of self or others;
6. Consistent irresponsibility, as indicated by repeated failure to sustain consistent work behavior or honor financial obligations;
7. Lack of remorse, as indicated by being indifferent to or rationalizing having hurt, mistreated, or stolen from another. - wikipedia

comfort food

Nigellu. Nú er tíminn að gera vel við sig heima með familíunni

 

Verndum hagsmuni almennings

að hugga sig við orð Guðs

Jesaja 43.1-5

 En nú segir Drottinn svo, sá er skóp þig, Jakobsætt, og myndaði þig, Ísrael: Óttast þú eigi, því að ég frelsa þig. Ég kalla á þig með nafni, þú ert minn.

    Gangir þú gegnum vötnin, þá er ég með þér, gegnum vatnsföllin, þá skulu þau ekki flæða yfir þig. Gangir þú gegnum eld, skalt þú eigi brenna þig, og loginn skal eigi granda þér.

    Því að ég, Drottinn, er Guð þinn, Hinn heilagi í Ísrael frelsari þinn. Ég gef Egyptaland í lausnargjald fyrir þig, læt Bláland og Seba í stað þín.

    Sökum þess að þú ert dýrmætur í mínum augum og mikils metinn, og af því að ég elska þig, þá legg ég menn í sölurnar fyrir þig og þjóðir fyrir líf þitt.

   Óttast þú eigi, því að ég er með þér.

- 19 Sjá, nú hefi ég nýtt fyrir stafni, það tekur þegar að votta fyrir því _ sjáið þér það ekki? Ég gjöri veg um eyðimörkina og leiði ár um öræfin.  

Á spítalanum þegar fólk stð frammi fyrir hörmulegum aðstæðum var oft gott að hvíla í sálmunum(t.d. Sl.121) eða Orðinu. Hafa í huganum þessi orð aldanna sem hugga.  Hvort sem maður telur sig trúaðann eða ekki þá eru þetta orð sem hafa hjálpað fólki. Fylla mann æðruleysi. Að ná ró og anda djúpt inn og út hjálpar manni líka að hugsa skýrar á erfiðum tímum. 

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Hvaða rugl er þetta?

Bónus vantar pening : 

Guðmundur Marteinsson, framkvæmdastjóri Bónuss, ráðlagði fólki á föstudag að birgja sig upp af vörum því búast mætti við skorti á innfluttum vörum á næstunni.(...)

Að sögn Patricks hafa viðskiptavinir aðallega birgt sig upp af vörum sem endast vel, eins og hveiti, sykri, spagettíi og kotasælu. - Fréttablaðið í dag

 

Kotasælu?????

ábyrgð bankanna

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Bankarnir verða að selja eignir erlendis

engar fréttir

 daginn sem það voru engar fréttir

 

Fundi lokið með SA og ASÍ

Hestar

ljósmyndir Tim Flach í bók hans Equus

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

hvað vekur hrifningu hjá okkur?

 Creature Comforts:

 

skapabarmaaðgerð kostaði nú bara 54.000 kr hér heima

þarna á Húsavík árið 2006...sjá frétt.

Man ég skoðaði verðskrá þeirra fyrir nokkrum árum og þar var langur listi yfir allar mögulegar aðgerðir á konum, en bara 2-3 atriði sem voru í boði fyrir karlmenn...enda þurfa þeir ekki eins miklar lagfæringar og við konurnar.

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